Who is my soul mate? When will I be loved?
How do I make my partner love me and stay with me?
These are all really deep questions. YOU are your soul mate. Before any other relationship, the relationship with self is the highest priority. If you have been looking for the right partner and have not found them, the answer is to look within at your own relationship to the self. If you feel incomplete, lonely and unhappy by yourself then there is work to be done before you can attract the right person. If you have been struggling for a really long time in a relationship and focusing on your partner and what they should change or what do you need to do so they will stay in the relationship you are missing the mark. Even if you are doing your own deep work you cannot focus or control or change your partner. This is an illusion, a distraction, an agenda that will cause further separation with the person you are trying to connect with. They need to be loved, understood and accepted for who they are, just like you need those same things. You need to focus on getting your own needs met, not by something external or by another person but for yourself.
The energy that is showing up on the planet is about relationship in collaboration with respect and reverence for the self-empowered individual. Co-dependency, blame, projection, enabling are taking on a new twist that cannot be continued in the new frequency. So you must shift or let it go. We must look inside ourselves. We don’t want to do that so we project on others and make them responsible. All that you seek is inside and under your control.
Here are what some others are saying…
“Many of you are RE-ASSESSING your own worth since the Eclipses…it is not your partner or lack thereof that is the problem with your life. It is NEVER about the other, always YOU. Partners AMPLIFY what we need to accept about ourselves. OK. There is a lot of pressure on us from then UNIVERSE to accept our own responsibility within partnerships. So if you are willing to do this, then watch partnerships flow, but also watch the NEW PARTNERSHIPS to be all about respecting individuality, as well as the team. “Elizabeth Peru
“And this is what Saturn in Scorpio and Pluto in Capricorn are inviting us to do. For many, inward looking is terrifying; hence, the persistent emphasis on appearances, on status, on money, on everything but the actual content of who a person is. One resulting shadow side of both of these transits is emotional fear resulting in knee-jerk conservatism, denial and withdrawal. Such is almost always directed at sex and its creative power, and that is much of what Pluto and Scorpio are describing. If the reactionary thinking is recognized for what it is, there will be an obvious invitation to healing.”
“One reason why abusive relationships are so wildly popular is because they provide a hedge against intimacy. The abuse, the drama, the standoffs and the lack of empathy render intimacy impossible, so in this respect the dramas serve those who are afraid to be close to others. Yet it goes deeper — I am fond of the definition of intimacy offered by my friend, the poet Jason Blickstein — into-me-see. The fear of intimacy is also the fear of seeing into oneself, to address what might be there.”
” A diversity of social rules support people in sticking with relationships that don’t work, in part by failing to support us in being autonomous people.”
“Let’s put it this way. To get out of this loop, you have to really want to. It is possible. It is necessary, even if many don’t get around to it. Yet it takes focus, determination, time, willingness and resources. It takes cultivating selflove and patience. It does not happen ‘by itself’. And it’s not realistic to expect there to be one magical relationship that will come along and save you. That expectation is a big part of the problem we face.” Eric Fracis, Planet Waves
There’s a reminder from A Course in Miracles that I would offer you, which places a lens in front of the astrology we’re experiencing.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. It is not necessary to seek for what is true, but it is necessary to seek for what is false.
“Every illusion is one of fear, whatever form it takes. And the attempt to escape from one illusion into another must fail. If you seek love outside yourself you can be certain that you perceive hatred within, and are afraid of it. Yet peace will never come from the illusion of love, but only from its reality.”
I sincerely love working with clients and am continually amazed at how the energy of the planet shows up as a common theme in sessions and readings! Then as I see a theme, I begin blogging and talking about it and within a few days I see other healers, astrologers and seers talking about the same energy. We are all in this together and relationships are important to us, but it is the relationship with self that the divine is shining its light on. Stand within that light and make your own light shine, it will Change you, it will change your relationships and it will change the world.